This is just one of the examples of how our weekends go wrong..

I woke up as soon as Yuri was awake and started crying.
I picked him up and we had some breakfast.. I, of course, made breakfast for the family. It was nice big breakfast and Harry even seemed happy.
Then Yuri was playing and I started the usual chores.. I put the clothes to wash, did a bit of cleaning up here and there.. And then I realised how dirty and dusty our bathroom is.. And though it has been like this for a while, I just could not stand it no longer, and decided to give it a good clean throughout. Especially the floor bothered me a lot, as Yuri is always crawling on it.
So as I was getting the mop and the floor wipes, Harry came to me: "what are you doing?" he asked.. "I am just going to clean up the bathroom", I said. "Don't do it!" - demanded Harry, "I'll do it myself next week".. "But why?", I asked him.. "It is really dirty and it bothers me, why should I have this for another week? I would like to clean it now".
He insisted that 'I should not do it, and took the mop from me…He was blocking my way into the living room. "What is your problem?"- I said…"Let me go!" I raised my voice, as it started getting really annoying.. He also started screaming.. He was getting an anger attack. Somehow he let me pass through. I took the wipes, and went to the bathroom, I cleaned the floor, the bath and the toilet and made everything tidy. While I was cleaning he came in and insulted me, he called me stubborn and crazy.

A little later, when the bathroom was nice and clean, he told me: "Why do you always wake up on the weekends and argue with me (note: in his eyes, I started the argument!!!!) .Don't ever scream at me again. I become violent and loose control.. I can do something really scary, like hit you with a knife or something like that…."


Well, clearly it was not about cleaning the bathroom. Every time when I want to do something, Harry's reaction is to stop me! (the only exception is me cooking for him, this I can do any time I like - lucky me!).
So it's usually about cleaning, shopping (he loves stopping me from going, when we have a n empty fridge), taking Yuri to a playground, making a phone call .. Anything really simple and trivial.. He just can't stand it when I am making decisions about anything…Even if it benefits him, he still can not accept it.. He has to STOP me - this is his role in life…

I lost count of the spoiled weekends, where he would block my energy and prevent me from doing what I want.
I almost don't make any plans to see friends anymore - the only exception is when friends from abroad are visiting and asking to see me.. So this moved from stopping me from seeing friends, to stopping me to do anything else that comes into picture….