we got invited to a last minute hanukkah party that's tonight. the invitation came two days ago. these are our very close friends that we have both know for many years. all of a sudden my DH (darling husband) decides that he doesn't feel like going because there'll be a guy he doesn't like and the food will be kosher. to me saying to your friends "you serve sucky food i'm not going to visit you" is very rude and unacceptable. appearantly he doesn't feel the same way. for some reason i also feel responsible for his behavior. so aside from the fact that i don't want to go by myself as that entails an hour and a half ride on the subway, i also feel bad about him being such a jerk to our friends. would love to hear some advice or suggestions how to deal with this situation. do i keep insisting he comes until he gives in just so that i leave him alone? i've done it before but don't like to do it. however, at this point it seems to be the only solution to not going alone and not insulting our friends.