The Last Rant
09-04-2003 20:02
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As many of you say in your comments and journals, it is (supposed to be) easier to open up and say what seems right without big repercussion. If someone doesn't like your response, position, opinion, you can swear at them, say something rude, shut them down altogether or completely ignore. Sure for every personality you might have disliked, there will be score of others who will keep reading and commenting on you, so why not be a jerk. The abundance of candidates for a friend or reader makes the idea of keeping a journal and comments ping-ponging all the better, it frees you to do whatever you want however you want with no regard and consideration to other's folks. The principle "My journal, I do whatever I deem desirable" shows disrespect and narrow mindedness.
I tend to see the whole idea of having such a journal an enterprize to boost an egoistical qualities of a character. An average journal owner is not so much interested in establishing a long-time peer communications through though-provoking discussions but to have readers simply comment to indulge his/her presence into being noticeable. If there is someone who comments with what's considered by a journal owner a slight hint of intelligence or with an idea slightly standing out from the crowd's noise and cacophony, (s)he gets to be called a friend.
Most of emotions and intentions expressed by people here are phony and the whole thing is a big fake. People lie and mislead by intentionally creating new profiles and testing other's reactions; Attract attention only to satisfy their own ego; Try to find answers to questions which were answered zillions times before, bored by idea of reading a bit more and learn for themselves. Pathetic forum's topics and commentaries are abundant, worthless, and most of them are offending, if anything. Someone would disagree with me arguing that the journal is an innocent attempt to share thoughts and hear back. And my answer to this is that while there is nothing wrong with sharing, one has to question motives. Is it to really learn something new about people, yourself, world? Or is it to show off with masculinity or find a shoulder to cry on? In both cases it is a wrong place.
Or, you may say, to find friends. Count how many friends you found and how many of them stayed with you for more than 3 months. I mean not being on the list for the past months, but who actually engaged in lively and fulfilling conversation, and who really pay attention to what you say, whom you were looking forward to speaking and seeing online. At best you find people who think same way you do. Those ain't no friends. Those aren't even acquaintances. I don't even know name of some of them, and they
are not quick to share that. But what they do share is their attitude and moods, if I say something they don't find too likable.
I will tell you that if you found at least a single person here who would be honest with you, polite, pleasant to talk with, not necessarily agreeing to all you're saying but who's eager to listen and civilly discuss and learn, you may consider yourself lucky and that you didn't squander your time. Of all people I corresponded here in personal (way more than 200) I found only two people who are really worth speaking past plain comments and
emails, just two folks I'm checking whether they are online and wanting them back. Everyone else came out to be sham, faker or a lier, not mentioning a bunch of puny self-proclaimed experts who turned out to be mediocre buffoons.
In the end, this place is not a virtual reality, it is one of worst cases of just the reality. it is in no way a place I would like to stay any longer.
Stay safe and be good.
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