It's not that you're flatter than cheap champagne -- you just don't let the bubbly in you shine through. "A person who avoids flirting may be inhibited because she doesn't feel comfortable with her sensuality," says Constance E. Dunlap, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst in Washington, D.C. "She may have anxiety because she doesn't think she's attractive or interesting enough to guys and, consequently, closes herself off in social interactions." But the only way you'll lose your jitters -- and meet mucho men -- is by boosting your friendly vibes. "If we don't flirt, we fail to send the signals that let someone know we're interested, so we miss out on opportunities," explains Peta Heskell, author of Flirt Coach. "We also miss out on the fun of making other people feel good in our presence, and that can lead to all sorts of personal successes."

An easy way to vamp it up: "Challenge yourself to smile at three people every day. Start with platonic pals until it becomes a habit," says Heskell. "Then think of all the things you like about people you know. If you haven't told them, start now." Genuine flattery is a major flirting tool -- it makes others feel more attractive and has a funny way of making you look better too. Once you start dishing out complimentary "gifts" (whether it's "Nice shirt" or "Damn, you dance well"), you'll be amazed at how fast they come back to you... in yummy six-foot-two packages.

Короче, нифига флиртовать не умею, и ваще вся такая непримечательная, а надо! надо меняться, будь проще и люди потянутся... за тобой. а наф.это надо - не написано.... придется проигнорировать советы, особенно последний

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