Sanggyeonnye (D-180)

Sanggyeonnye refers to the occasion where the parents and relatives of both of the couples families meet for the first time to discuss the marriage. It is the first official step towards a marriage. Once a couple decides to get married, the man visits the womans parents to receive their permission; then the woman visits the mans parents to greet them. When both parents agree, the sanggyeonnye is held.

Yedan (D-70)

Yedan originally referred to the silk garments that the bride sent to the grooms home. In the old days, silk was rare and expensive and was considered as a good gift item for showing respect. Traditionally, the grooms family sent silk to the brides family; the bride would personally make clothes for her parents-in-law using the silk and then send it back; then, the grooms family would send money back in appreciation of the brides efforts. Today, however, all gifts sent by the bride to the grooms home are simply called yedan regardless of content.

Tip: What gifts were used asyedan?

In the old days, only goods were offered as yedan; as the times changed, however, money is also being sent for the purchase of wanted goods. Yedan is usually sent to the grooms home about a month before the wedding. Together with money, some people also send a set of tableware, silver spoon set, and luxurious beddings.

Wedding Photo (D-50)

With the passage of time, weddings have transcended its strictly ritualistic characteristics but have maintained its place as a memorable and pleasant event. As such, taking wedding photos before the wedding has become a must. Many pictures are taken in a studio, but outdoor photos have also become common. Royal palaces such as Gyeongbokgung, arboretums, theme parks, or other memorable locales are used to take pictures. Wedding dress, tuxedos, hanbok, and comfortable casual clothes are all worn to reflect couples different lifestyles.

Ham (D-10)

If yedanis the gift by the bride to the grooms family, ham(pronounced [ha-am]) is the gift from the groom to the brides family. Originally, the hamwas sent the day before the wedding but it has become more common to send it on a pre-determined date prior to the wedding. Inside the ham, which is a gift box, are a carefully prepared proposal letter, blue and red silk, and a list of necessary items. The ham, which is wrapped in a red cloth called bojagito stem all bad spirits, is sent to the brides home by hamjinabi, the male responsible for delivery of the ham to the brides home.

Tip: Significance of gifts

• Proposal letter: The letter is personally written by the grooms father to thank the brides parents for sending their precious daughter as their daughter-in-law. This bears the significance of recognizing and blessing the marriage.

• Blue&Red Silk:Also called chaedan, the blue and red silk was originally cloth material for making hanbok. The blue silk is wrapped in red paper and then tied with a blue string; the red silk is wrapped in blue paper and tied in red. This signifies the harmonious union between the man (blue) and the woman (red). The string signifies the binding of two hearts into one for everlasting love.

Wedding Ceremony (D-DAY)

The wedding ceremony is a public ritual to notify the public of the couples marriage. In Korea, there are two types of wedding ceremonies. The first and most common is the Western-style wedding held in a wedding hall or church. The other is the traditional Korean wedding, which is becoming more popular among young couples that want to have a unique experience. The traditional wedding involves the bride and the groom bowing to each other in traditional wedding outfits and sharing a cup of liquor in a gourd to vow their full commitment to a happy marriage to heaven and earth. After the actual wedding ceremony, the bride and the groom participate in a pyebaekceremony to bow to the grooms parents. During pyebaek, the parents throw chestnuts and jujube fruits to encourage many offspring and bless a happy marriage.

Visit to the Brides Home (D+7)

After returning from the honeymoon, the married couple would visit the brides home to show their respect to the brides parents. That night, the couple stay there to spend the night in the parents room. This signifies that the parents commemorate and congratulate their daughters return as the wife of a man. The next day, the couple leaves for the grooms home with ibaji,food carefully prepared by the brides mother.

Ibaji Food (D+8)

Ibaji comes from the word ‘ibajihada,meaning ‘to contribute. The brides mother usually prepares ibaji right after the couples return from the honeymoon. It is prepared with great care to send to the in-laws through the daughter. The food can vary depending on the family style and regions, but commonly consists of galbi, seafood, fruit, and tteok (rice cakes), all made elegantly. In some cases, simpler fare such as with tteok, fruit, and hangwa is prepared. Ibaji food contains the love of the brides mother wishing that her daughter would be loved by her parents-in-law and would have a happy marriage. Upon receiving the ibaji food, the grooms mother also sends back food as a sign of appreciation.

Tip: Regional Difference of Ibaji Food

• Gaeseong in North Korea:The bride prepares the food by herself at the grooms home. It consists of tteok, noodle, and side dishes.

• Gyeongsang-do Province:One day before the wedding or on wedding day, both families exchange tteok, fruit, galbi, and liquor.

Where to Find Traditional Korean Weddings

There are two places holding traditional Korean weddings in Korea. Usually, the wedding ceremonies are held during the weekends in lieu of weekdays. Weather permitting, they are held outdoors so visitors can witness the ceremony.