I used to say this phrase very often
I have been reading a psychology book written by psychologist Ellis
and He has made me thinking that some things not under my control
but my emotions reactions and stressors can be controlled by be
How?
Easily
For example, I cannot control the fact that my aunt got ahlod of the key set from my Belarusian apartment
she took out there everything she could
as she had recognized the fact of me not being able to get to my apartment
therefore, I have been very exausted recently when I think that things are being stolen from my flat but nothing can be done
After reading Ellis I have realized that I wont change anythoing by getting mad
I will just get an ulcer or ahetattack
but I can change my attitude
and clam down and just
let them take those things.