When the dreams have run dry and you no longer see eye to eye this ends in unhappiness. Life is too short to be unhappy and unfortunately when you have reached the end of the road with the person you have a relationship with, it is time to break up.

How to break up can be tricky, it can be simple, or it can be flat out painful. It always depends on what kind of relationship you have with what kind of person.



Rejection is a horrible feeling, and in a lot of cases we do not want to hurt someone that we have had a relationship with. In this case the best way to do this is to simply communicate. Even if the communication is barely there anymore, it is always best to try. Talking things out and both realizing that the relationship has come to an end can sometimes ease the pain.

If you are in a relationship with someone that is off the wall, and you worry about their reaction to you wanting to break up, then maybe this is better done at a distance. Have your discussion on the telephone or in worse case write a Dear John or Dear Edith letter.

If you are in a relationship with someone that is insecure or demanding, then it is best done slowly. Ease off on the phone calls, find excuses to not see them as often as you usually do, do not respond to their text messages as often and let them down gently. Letting them down gently basically means, slowly. By doing this you ease the person into getting use to doing things more so on their own. So when you are gone they will not feel as though they have lost their life support system. Breaking up with insecure clingy people can be a tricky thing to do. Just try to be as gentle as possible. These kinds of people get hurt very easily.

How to break up with a control freak is also a tricky one. In this case controlling people are usually linked to being abusive. The best way to break up with someone like this is keep your distance as much as possible. Tell them you want to break up (preferably in a nice manner) and the relationship is just not what you had hoped it would be. Do not let their control issues convince you to stay due to fear. Once the word is out you want to break up, just stay gone. When they try calling you do not respond. It takes awhile but sooner or later, they get bored and move on to another that they can control.

Action causes reaction. There is no painless unemotional way of breaking up. With this being said, the last thing you want to do is have an ugly break up. The angry words of who is to bless and who is to blame does not matter at this point. Try to stay focused on the discussion of the breaking up and when explaining why, try not to make it an attack on the person. This is where their defences rise and conflict begins. Ugly break ups are nothing to be desired and add more pain to an uncomfortable painful situation that already exists.

If you want to know how to break up with someone, just follow your heart.

Stay civil and be kind.(c)

Ответ на комментарий nothingiseverlating # Спасибо тебе зайк))) Твоя статья мне очень помогла) Если все это писала ты, то великий психолог и литератор =**** А если нет, то ты нашла ахринетельную статью)

Две минуты назад написала ему последнюю смс-ку подобного рода: "Есть время встретится сегодня?" Посмотрим, что он ответит и ответит ли вообще.

P.S. В 11, как собиралась, я ему не звонила. Не хватило смелости.