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Oh well, I am so used to this!!!! The story of my life you know!

That's why we are so much alike. I've got the exact same problem, so I just quit trying years ago. And now... I LOVE being 100% single.

вот сцуки!

Bitches!

Вот говнюк........
Но лучше раньше, чем позже....... :)
Все будет хорошо, Ликусь!

Men are so easily scared away... Fuck him (not literally :)) You'll find a real one.

I know right!!!!! :)))) I wish it wouldn't hurt that much though!!!! He is talking about seeing each other occasionally, nothing serious, cause he is not ready for relationships!!! Ha! What kind of girl he takes me for?????

to be honest it's a little bit weird... you don't just go on a few dates, pretend that you're head over heels and then say you're not ready for a relationship. Sometimes must have spooked him off. Have you asked him what made him decide that all of a sudden?

Well, I did, after telling me all that last night he keeps texting me all day today non stop! And that he still wants to see me and he's sorry he hurt my feelings and bluh bluh bluh!!!!!! I don't understand... If he wants to play he got no idea what kind of player I am ;))

Love_Cyber_Cat, no offence, but what I kind of player are you, if you let him hurt you so much? Players don't hurt, they just play for the sake of the game.

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Love_Cyber_Cat, no offence, but what I kind of player are you, if you let him hurt you so much? Players don't hurt, they just play for the sake of the game.

Very good point!!!!

Лик, да забей ты на них! Нужный человек сам появится в твоей жизни и ты его скорее всего сразу не приметишь, и он будет добиваться тебя! Смазливая мордочка очередного ловеласа-самолюба - это все для романов. Живи для себя! Все будет так, как ты мечтаешь!

Well I didnot wanna play with him, I wanted true and honest relationship but it all turned out crazy so to me it looks he's playing and I sure can do the same! ;)

Love_Cyber_Cat, see, players don't want a real relationship and you do. And especially do with him. You do honestly like him. Will you be able to keep it just a game while liking him so much? I doubt it. I think all you gonna do is cause yourself even more pain. But of course it's up to you ;)

Ha ha thanks Nastik!!!!!!! :))) I love my online friends!!!!

You probably are right! :)))

Love_Cyber_Cat, the good news is - maybe he's really just temporarily scared. Guys are so easily scared. So maybe there is some potential in him. But maybe not. It's hard to tell just by these few lines you wrote. Up to you to think and decide :) Just be careful! Take it sloooow.

Well there r a lot of things I could think of that would scare him, at least now I know what to expect and can be careful you know, we did go super fast so we will see..... Thanks girl, I think with time everything will be just the way it meant to be. I am glad I am still human, cause for the last year I felt no emotions other then anger and desire to destroy man lol :))))

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I am glad I am still human, cause for the last year I felt no emotions other then anger and desire to destroy man lol :))))

It is definitely great! :)

i just don't get those man!!!!!

oh man... :(
Are you ok? forget about this child (adult person wouldn't behave like he did!)

Okay, girls, I have the opposite problem. If I was in this relationship, I'd be the guy, because I ALWAYS end up making someone upset that I don't want to get involved into anything serious.

I don't know exactly what happened between you two, but I'll just assume that you Leeka, came out and told him you want to be MORE than just a crush, or a fuck buddy or whatever the two of you were. Well, have you ever liked someone and wanted to take it slow and see where it's going, only to hear one day that the other person wants to get serious? What if you aren't up for it yet? It's really hard to hear and see the other person coming strong, especially if they start getting emotional and there's nothing you can do for them. Did he promise you that he was ready? Did he lead you into believing he was? If so, he is a jerk and than forget about him, but it sounded you were just flirting with each other.
I don't want to sound mean, but you know, you can't just assume that you both are on the same page simply because there's a strong attraction...

Why don't you just take things slowly next time? The life doesn't end tomorrow and you should enjoy being single, seeing different people and not jumping into a relationship right away.

Iron-Orchid, I totally get what you are saying, and OH boy, have I been in relationships like that where tables are turned!!!!! But! Hear me out! That's where I got sooooo confused! After our first date ( which was 8 hours) he would not stop texting me: it was the best date, you are amazing, my expectationas have changed, so I've asked- how? And he said: no I jut want to see where you and I are gonna go. He asked me if I am gonna go on other dates with other guys and I said no, at this point I'd rather go out with you and don't waste my time on others! He set up second date- by then sexual tension between us was visible by other people I think! ;) So we did end up sleeping together that night, right away he cooled off of course, still texted me, but would not call, and when i called he sounded distracted did not really wanted to talk, did not sound THAT interested, so I've asked him- what's up? and he went on into explaining that everything is awesome, he had a great time, it is just that he was not sure if sex was a good idea ( araid he did not satisfy me or I did not like it or whatever)- now, sex was AWESOME!!!! and for him too! ;) I can tell. So we just stoppped talking about that, he was on vacation and told me he is soooo bored. Our next date is Wednesday, Monday I offer him to go to the gym with me on Tuesday, relax by the pool, play ball whatever , since he has a hard time figuring out what to do, he politely says no, but reminds me about Wednesday and what time we're gonna see each other. Next day we spent in texts - NON STOP, like ALL DAY, he included me in every event of that day, told me what he was doing and everything, so next day I am getting ready for our movie nights at my house date, cooking, cleaning, he is all excited to see me, just to text me an hour before our date, I've got to cancel Leeka, I am not feeling well, and then right away sent me another text- I am just not ready to daye, I am sorry bc you are amazing girl and bluh bluh bluh! Then after that would not quit texting me- we still can see each other, we still can meet occasionally, we still can have sex and all that!
So that's my problem, I got no clue why he jumped, and I could tell he was attracted to me, things he wrote on my facebook, I did not ask him to, he would call me, leave me a message, then text me, then write something on my facebook, then myspace and yahho IM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how much he misses me and can not wait to hear my voice! Why would he do that! Last time i IM-ed with him, i just told him to fuck off, after he told me that sex is all he got to offer! And then i ignored him one and a half day, he kept trying to text me and IM, so last night we finally talked again, small talk, nothing serious, then all of a sudden i get a text from him, that he is thinking about my eyes and how soft my lips are and wish I were there with him now! WTF? I don't get it. If you don't like someone THAT MUCH, you are not INTO them that much- you don't text them constatntly and don't miss them and don't think about them in such manner- you either like someone or not! Who said something about pressure of relationship? I did not! I told him- I am out here to have fun, he said he is too, I told him I like him a lot and wanna spend time with him, as much as possible, that's where he backed off! Oh well, once a week is not serious for me enough, and if I sleep with someone I would like at least to know we are only having sex with each other, not other people involved, you know?
So it is complicated. Cause I can't get him out of my head! Maybe I will just have sex with him for the fun of it and keep looking for Mr Right who's gonna be right for me in all areas, not just sex! ;)

Love_Cyber_Cat, It sounds like he one of those humping computer screen guys who are afraid of commitments.. Total jerk, end of story.
I don't know if it's a good idea for you to just have sex with him, you sound pretty attached already.

Iron-Orchid, I think once you find a guy you REALLY like, you'll agree to exclusive dating and you will want him to be exclusive with you too and not fuck other girls ;) But as long as you don't really care about the guys you date - you may be fine with them fucking around. Them, on the other hand, just become posessive with you very fast, because they see that you are a very attractive girl and therefore have plenty of opportunities to sleep with other guys. So they agree to go faster just to prevent you from going out with others. You, on the other hand, are not ready for such relationship yet. But as long as both partners are being honets about their goals, it is fine. When one starts fooling another - that is not good. Which is what happened with Leeka.

Well, whatever his problem and excuse, when a guy REALLY likes you, he will want to be exclusive with you! Better off I know but can't get him out of my head!!!!

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Iron-Orchid, I think once you find a guy you REALLY like, you'll agree to exclusive dating and you will want him to be exclusive with you too and not fuck other girls ;) But as long as you don't really care about the guys you date - you may be fine with them fucking around. Them, on the other hand, just become posessive with you very fast, because they see that you are a very attractive girl and therefore have plenty of opportunities to sleep with other guys. So they agree to go faster just to prevent you from going out with others. You, on the other hand, are not ready for such relationship yet. But as long as both partners are being honets about their goals, it is fine. When one starts fooling another - that is not good. Which is what happened with Leeka.

Definitely, honesty is the best way. Though, I don't know, dating on the Internet is like shopping at the candy store- there are so many options! I think the guy we're talking about just can't give up the idea of having a chance to try every candy, no matter how unrealistic it might be. Love_Cyber_Cat, move on, you're way to pretty and smart to even spend time thinking about him!

self-made, А, и да, жду не дождусь,когда уже захочу с кем-то одним быть. На полном серьезе! )))

Iron-Orchid, you know how they say "love comes when you least expect it"? I believe it's true. As well as many other things in our life. When you are trying hard, they might not come to you, but once you forget and focus on something else - here you go :) So study, have fun and enjoy your life and one day it will hit you :)))