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Congratulations Leeka!!! Good luck to u!

LI 7.05.22 beta

what's a protection order? wow, you are going to pay for housing yourself now? gluck, Lika! you are strong and everything will be great! you are free now! you go girl! life is full of opportunities for the ones who are brave enough to try.

repeating Esther's question...

Good luck!

whf протекшн одер?
в любом случае, ты молодец и не я не перестаю восхищаться тобой! ты умничка!

is it restriction order? has Sasha done something bad to you?

присоединяюсь к вопросам :) ты тут так редко появляешься, что невозможно ничего понять :))
Тем не менее, ПОЗДРАВЛЯЮ! Раз ты сама рада тому, как все идет!

Protection order is just a piece of paper- warning to him, that he needs to stay away from me, he hasn't done anything bad yet, just mentally abused me, so this paper will keep him in his place! I am getting a place with my friends, but they won't move in there for two months, and it is temporary fix until I get divorced.

I know I am not here that often anymore, but fear not - everything is GREAT and I am coming back one day with picture stories etc. :)))

Right now just too much shit going on. But know that I am super happy!:))

So it's like a restraining order... Cool! Glad for you!

yes it is almost like restraining order, u are right..:)))

It's hard for him to stay away if you share the kid.

I almost do not understand why there should be restraining order for the husband. Yeah, he must be said ugly things when Leeka announced she is gonna divorce him. I am sure she did not stay quiet and replied something mispleasent to him as well. But restraining order, WHY???

Carolinatka, honey I just pray and hope you will never have to go through what I had to. And that you will never meet a jerk like I did. I never told my husband that I am going to kill him, I never swear at him, Gosh, I never even called him jerk or stupid!!!!!! I AM AFRAID OF HIM! That is why I had to get protection order. I was afraid to buy wrong brand of bread, cause he would not like it, I was afraid to talk to my friends on the phone when he is around and so on... So please, until you know the FULL situation, don't make any kind of judgments or come to conclusions! Emotional, sexual, financial abuse- IS STILL abuse and there are laws protecting from ANY form of it. So... just so you know, I did not do it JUST BECAUSE.. I had reasons.

Elena_Ollick, restraining order is usually issued AFTER divorce is finalized and if real domestic violence act took place; like if he beat me up and I called police, they arrested him and so on. Since he just sign a consent agreement to protection order, he agrees so PLAY by its rules: don't contact me unless it is about Gabby, leave if he sees me at the store or some place else, just some minor rules about child custody for right now - I have sole custody until final divorce and so on. But restraining order is much more serious.

Love_Cyber_Cat, I realize I do not know the whole situation, I can judge only by what you say.And I am sorry what you have to go through, especially I am sorry for the innocent one -- Gaby. I am speaking in general how men/fathers are treated in this society. I do not believe abuse happens solely from men's side, statistics show that women are more abusive but you never hear about protection order for men. I think thta custodial parent should be put a veto on fom moving out of state so another parent has a full access to the child. I am sure Gaby's father loves and cares about her and does not want her mother to have a full custody over his daughter.
Female children need to have father by them while growing up. Otherwise they will become promiscious when grow up because they will be looking for the male figure in their lives. This post is not about you, Leeka, I am just sick and tired to see how women always come out to be nice and sweet, and men are abusive monsters. This s$%t is everywhere: in press, laws, services, court verdicts. No wonder whrn suppressed by society man decides to resort to last means and take gun in his hands.

Carolinatka, Sweetie, I am sorry but you know shit, OK. Every day abuse happens in this country, in Russia, everywhere- and guess what 90% it is by men who are abusive, not women. There are thousands and thousands protection orders filled by men towards women- do your research! Unless you've been where I am right now you have got no clue. I LOVE THIS COUNTRY BECAUSE it protects and because it enforces laws that protect human- no matter man or woman. Shelters are not able to accommodate women with their children who face their drunk husbands/boyfriends/fathers beating them to death every minute that you spend typing your post honey. Please do not say this society is fucked up. It is not. If you say NO to your husband and he gladly accept it- there are other men who will not - I was just stupid enough to get involved with the man like this. Of course he cares for Gabby- that is why he would fall asleep while she is crawling everywhere on a second floor for two hours, and that is exactly why he would not feed her for 5 hours until I'd get home from work, and of course he loved her so much that he would yell at her- SHUT A FUCK UP YOU LITTLE PIECE OF SHIT at 4 AM when she cried out for late night feeding or diaper change. I don't need that kind of man around my daughter I love her too much. I want a good man next to her, who will treat her with love, care and respect and will not threaten to kill her for making a simple mistake ( like trying a cigarette- Alex would usually say if she'd get home and he'd smell smokes on her- he'd whoop her ass real bad!!!!! )

so yea, don't tell me you don't agree with this when you know shit. You have not been exposed to jerks and dicks and I was, so I know. My dad would beat up my mom real bad, and she stick around him for a long time- I don't want that for my daughter.
Sorry I don't mean to be rude to you or anything, but I hate when people come across like this, without getting the full picture first. And I appreciate your opinion, but please, don't feel obligated to share more with me. I don't care.

Лик, я бы на твоем месте даже не объясняла ничего. Пока человек сам не попадет в такую ситуацию, он легко судит и считает что разбирается во всем лучше других. Ты молодец и все делаешь правильно! В твоей ситуации лучше перестраховаться, чем недостраховаться. Удачи тебе!!!!

Love_Cyber_Cat, Лика, я не обижаюсь, и надеюсь что ты тоже нет, так как это ни в коем случае не является моей целью. Я не знаю всей ситуации, это правда. Просто хорошо всё продумай прежде чем принимать какие-либо окончательные решения. Я уверена, что Гэби будет признательна тебе в будущем, если ты позволишь её отцу принимать участие в её жизни и родители не будут поливать грязью один другого в её присутствии. Плюс ниодин мамин бойфренд не заменит отца, да и ты никогда не будешь 100% чувствоать себя уверенно оставляя дочь с одним из них.
If Sasha would not care about his daughter then you would not have to FIGHT for the full custody. You do not see her for few days and already miss her terribly. Imagine if your husband gonna move out of state with your baby and you are left alone with child support payment without the opportunity to see her. It is not like men do not have feelings.
Gabby is such a sweetie! Too bad you do not care because I do. I hope you guys gonna put your own interests aside and act solely in child's interest.

тема, как я уже и сказала, исчерпана!

Natasha, do you really believe in this: "Female children need to have father by them while growing up. Otherwise they will become promiscious when grow up because they will be looking for the male figure in their lives."
That's a little outdated, don't you think.
As far as anything else, Leeka did think long and hard about it. From what she tells me about her husband, he IS NOT the kind of man, you or I or anyone would want hanging around our daughter. He's unstable when it comes to anger adn that's just a pandora's box. He does care about gabby on primival level, but more than that of course he's gonna fight Leeka on the custody, because that's the kind of man he is- vindictive.
Trust me, a somewhat objective third party, Leeka should have done this LONG TIME AGO! She's absolutely right, I'd do the exact same thing.... I wouldn't take a bit of crap from my husband, especially when it's like this.

I should not have married him in a first place- but hey, then i wouldnt have Gabby! :))) The only reason he'd fight me for custody- is cuz he gt balls and he needs to prove it- it is either his way or th highway. So.. yea... I did not have father growing up and don't think I am promiscuous and even if I AM- well who cares- I am having fun and using condoms! ;)

Love_Cyber_Cat, HAHAHAHA!!!!! Girl, you're so bad!!!!!
You whore! :D:D:D:D:D

YEA YEA YEA! :)))