“The man who was always forming attachments to somewhat obese women may be viewed as being attached to women unlike his thing and ungiving mother. Indeed many people get consistently involved with people as opposite to their early parental figures as possible. For some it means choosing people of different appearances or accents or attitudes toward life. Others go so far as to form their closest relationships with people of religious, ethnic or socioeconomic backgrounds dissimilar to their own (white women tending to choose black guys, etc.) these people tend to form anti-transference attachment fetishes (qualities). In some instances like a man who prefers women antithetical (ПРЯМОПРОТИВОПОЛОЖНЫХ) to his spare and cold mother it is a moving away from attributes associated with rejection, abuse, disappointment, constriction and other negative early experiences. But it can be even more complicated For example, anti transference attachments can appeal to a man who as a child felt too attracted to his mother. These people may be making these choices not as a rejection of some pain inducing behavior on their parents’ part but as a rejection or denial of their own early and possible unconscious impulses. They can not allow themselves to get too close to who would stimulate these old feelings that are unacceptable because they carry forbidden sexual (oedipal) meaning; they arouse too strong a wish to become passive or dependent as they were when they were very young. For them people of different background feel both more exotic and safe. “