“If a pattern of bad relationship emerges, the next thing you should look at is your yearly family relationships because chances are you are repeating some unfinished business from that period. I have seen people who had a parent who was depressed when they were a child, consistently being involved with depressed lovers and then standing on their heads trying to make them smile. “

“If you are in a relationship where you feel great swings of feelings from love to hatred and anger you can be sure that Attachment hunger is activated in that you are trying to maintain a relationship without having accepted the other’s person complexity. Probably you are hoping to change the other parson which may be at the root a way of pursuing the old task of tying to turn your unsatisfying parents into gratifying ones.”
людей не изменишь, себя ломать, портить жизнь, сначало нужно себя как следует понять
да и еще ... ведь получается дело еще и в том, что мало кто рос в нормальных семьях, где были любящие и воспитывающие родители, вот и парятся во взрослой жизни, не сознавая, что в подкорке уже программа со сбоем