[показать]Ок, продолжим-с изучение "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man". Одной из более интересных глав книги является "The Ninety-Day Rule". На самом деле, именно услышав про это "правило" из уст мужчины, я и решила преобрести данную книгу. Дело в том, что я являюсь девушкой довольно строгих правил ;), которые зачастую затрудняют мою dating life, так что было приятно услышать, что я не заря отправляю восвояси такое кол-во молодых людей.

В наши прогрессивные дни, куда ни глянь, кругом только и слышно, "If you won't put out on the third date, he'll think that you're not interested". Даже больее консервативные подходы устанавливают довольно краткий промежуток времени между знакомством и прыжком в постель. Хорошо это или плохо, I don't work this way because I have to get to know a person very well before I even consider getting closer. I don't believe in any time frames for moving relationship to the next level and, if he is not willing to wait, simply tell "Goodbye, Вася" no matter how much I like the guy.

Как оказалось, Steve Harvey советует придерживаться женщинам, заинтересованным в серьезных отношениях, моей, ну или почти моей, позиции. According to him, "More likely than not, a guy who gets benefits early in a relationship, without having to put in work or prove himself, leaves and moves on to a committed relationship with a woman who puts him through some type of probationary period to find out more about him". Такой рассклад вещей, разумеется, ни для кого не секрет, но вот срок ожидания, 90 дней, по-моему, слегка необычен в наши дни, особенно исходя из уст мужчины.

• One of those mind tricks that guys have been playing on women since the beginning of time is to convince them that waiting doesn't matter, that giving it up early and quick is the way to go. This is not a secret: men love and want sex, and will try to get it by any means necessary. But guess What? He. Can. Wait. If, of course, he is interested enough. If not, why do you need him anyway?
  
• Every woman has a power to make him wait. Just think of it this way: when it comes to having sex with a woman, we men don't decide a thing. We don't determine when we're going to sleep with you - that decision is yours. Don't give up your power. Keep it. You only give it up when the man has earned it, and he is going to respect it and do something with it
  
• When a man asks for sex, and he is told no, his reaction to that no will tell you everything you need to know about him. If the phone calls cease or become infrequent, the flowers stop coming, the dating slows down, this man was just in it for the sex.
  
• During that 90-day period, you should be checking him out - does he come when he says he's going to come; does he call when he's going to be late; does he like and care about your friends; does he express his joy at being in your presence? Most important, is this really a man with whom you can see yourself in a committed relationship?
  
• It is important to wait 90 days because the guy who is dating you just to get the benefits up front is going to be on his best behavior in the beginning, specifically so he can make you think he's worthy. But, as time goes by, he'll eventually show his true nature. Get it at least ninety days, and you can smoke all of that out of him, so that you can be sure that this guy is the right man for you.
  

Do you think there are any guys left who'll agree to wait for 90 days? ))))